Medium Delirium

With these lines I tether myself to the fact of my existence.

bookmarks in the story of an ordinary life

My posts here are few and far between, and yet every one seems to require a mention of how miserably hot the weather is. The general rule these days seems to be to get by with as little clothing as possible without constituting a crime. I took a shower 15 minutes ago, walked around the house a little, et voila – enveloped in a thin film of sweat once more.

It takes a special kind of person to, upon seeing a mother and baby headed their way, move to occupy more of the 2-seater bench they are solely occupying, instead of making room to share.

I took the baby to an indoor playground the other day, a favourite past time of ours that kills both the baby-entertainment and air-conditioning birds with one stone. As she was crawling around, she abruptly face-planted downwards (which she seems inexplicably prone to doing every once in awhile). As luck would have it, her head landed, with considerable force, smack on the soft fleshy part of my right foot, thus averting a mild head injury and a lot of crying. Sweet serendipity.

I took a bit of an evening walk yesterday around the river (read: storm drain) in my neighbourhood. Amongst the usual crowd of runners, joggers, dog-walkers and pram-pushers, one man stood out: he was dressed for manual labour, and was kneeling, alone, by the railing at the river’s edge. As I walked by, I watched as he prostrated himself, bowing in (I assume) the direction of Mecca. Evening prayers. As he raised himself back up onto his knees, I saw flecks of gravel and small leaves on his forehead, so deeply had he pressed himself into the ground. I was struck by the magnitude of this simple but reverential act.

The baby is stirring on the monitor. Back to work!

6th Jul 2026

baby, family, life, lifestyle, motherhood, parenting, singapore, writing
no rest for the sweaty

Finally, a moment to sit and write for abit.

I’ve been thinking over the past few days about how I spend an inordinate amount of time on heat management. The weather has been perilously, oppressively hot, the air thick and fiery like a furnace; how are people supposed to be nice to each other in weather like that? It’s all I can do to keep from stripping bare in public and kicking a plant out of frustration. It’s worse with a baby, of course, because now I have to think about how to keep two people cool, instead of just me. Most days, this results in us popping out twice or even thrice a day to malls for air-conditioning – the colder the better, polar conditions are ideal – for however long she deigns to stay confined in the stroller. Whatever heat we are able to expel on our expeditions is quickly regained during the short walk from the MRT station back home, which inevitably results in us both being covered with an uncomfortable film of sweat by the time we get to our doorstep.

My absence from this space is largely due to trying to juggle two creative projects at the moment: drawing a comic for a charity organisation, and designing a book cover for a local poet’s upcoming self-published collection. On top of that, the baby is extremely active and requires constant supervision. Whatever pockets of time I’m able to wrangle from the day, I spend being the rapt audience of a series of marginally different ASMR vlogs on Youtube.

I’ve started doing reformer pilates, albeit at an unhelpfully slow rate (about one class every 2-3 weeks). It’s so expensive that I can’t tell which makes my heart race more: the intensity of the exercises, or the process of paying for a class. For what it’s worth, each 50 minute class sees my body worked to its limit, and the other day my legs were so shaken I had to limp out of class, pretending I was taking a slow stroll for no particular reason. I spent the next day in deep, deep pain; my hamstrings and glutes were positively pulverised. In some twisted, masochistic way, the pain made me feel better about the money I’d paid for the class, since it was a tangible reminder that results had been reaped. Ah, the saccharine hell of a life spent groping through the garden maze in this capitalist wonderland.

18th Apr 2026

baby, family, life, lifestyle, motherhood, parenting, singapore, writing
revisiting: HCMC & memories of The Best Pho

Parenthood milestone – took my first holiday since getting pregnant, a pocket-sized weekend getaway to Ho Chi Minh. I flew off on a Friday afternoon and was back on the couch by Sunday night; a blink of an eye by vacation standards, but the longest I’ve ever spent away from the baby. It felt good to bask briefly in the illusion of freedom, though my boobs decided to dampen my feelings of liberation by promptly becoming engorged. I spent Saturday trying to deal with an achy chest heaving with milk – mind you, milk production is never this zealous when the baby is actually around to have a drink – and at regular intervals had to return to the hotel room to milk myself like a cow.

HCMC is less chaotic than I recall, but perhaps I feel this way because I’ve been to Hanoi now, and that, well, that is TRUE chaos. Since we didn’t have much time at all, we mostly circumambulated within walking distance of the hotel, which was in a very central location. The area was teeming with tourists and every other shop was peddling identical, kitschy souvenirs. My sister (who I was joining on the tail end of her work trip) was deathly afraid of contracting food poisoning, so unfortunately we had to steer clear of street food; this being Southeast Asia, those places of course were where all the good food was to be found. Instead, we had mediocre pho at more sanitised joints and ultimately concluded that we’d had better Vietnamese food back home in Singapore. Personally, I’d also had way better in both London and New York. The Vietnamese diaspora, as J reminds me, reached far and wide and took their excellent cuisine with them. One of the best memories of my uni years in London is of countless evenings spent at Cafe East, a humble but excellent Vietnamese restaurant in Surrey Quays. It occupied a standalone, one-storey building at a corner of the Odeon’s outdoor carpark, and in winter we would tuck our chins into our cheap Primark puff jackets and brave the freezing gales that swept, unobstructed, across the large expanse of empty lots, arriving with relief to a steaming bowl of pho that would thaw our frozen cheeks and warm our young and restless hearts. Cafe East’s pho tai is still the best pho I’ve ever had, and I suspect will continue to be because it was seasoned not only with herbs and salt and fish sauce but also the irreplaceable taste of nostalgia and crystallised youth.

This trip was a bit of a warm up exercise for a longer one I’m hoping to take later in the year, to go gallivanting in Europe for a little bit. We’ll see!

20th Mar 2026

family, ho chi minh, life, lifestyle, motherhood, parenting, singapore, travel, vietnam, writing
The weather this week has been infernally hot and humid; the storms and cool weather of the Lunar New Year seem to be well and truly over, and we hurtle straight on into the furnace that is March. Simply doing nothing at all seems to generate a sticky and uncomfortable layer of sweat. On the way to my mum’s place yesterday, we walked past an older caucasian couple. The husband had on a shirt, jeans, and, unbelievably, a scarf around his neck. It was late afternoon and the air had well and truly been stewed in the blazing heat of the day. This was the sort of weather in which one wishes to divest oneself of all unnecessary articles of clothing (even some of the necessary ones), so it’s hard to imagine what possessed him to not only not remove any clothing, but add more on. Perhaps he was ill, or from a climate even more oppressively hot than this.

Last week I ran into a friend from my teenage years at the hawker centre. This friend of mine had been quite popular as a teenager – you know the type. Loud and funny, played basketball, busts out obscure references to American culture. Tall, quite good looking, physically fit, cool. It’s probably fair (though quite unkind) to say that he has aged like, if not milk, then definitely something with dairy in it. In place of his abs (probably) he now sports a sizeable belly, and appears to have inherited not only his father’s good features but also his receding hairline. He doesn’t look bad, just, well, normal, significantly different from his youth, and probably not how he expected himself to look at this age. To his credit, he seems well aware of this physical decline and often pokes fun at himself on social media, with a great deal of mock (I hope) bitterness about the genetic card he has been dealt, and his penchant for fried chicken. When I said hello he did however look a bit embarrassed to see me and we had a brief but awkward exchange where I laughed too loudly in front of his sleeping baby. Maybe he felt uncomfortable because I had known him when he was in his physical prime, and I’m sure it’s also harder to make fun of yourself convincingly when you’re not typing a caption but speaking to an actual person. I suppose therein lies the benefit of not peaking too early, especially in your teenage years. Fifteen years down the road, when you no longer have a sky-high metabolism and bountiful supplies of collagen, people are less likely to wonder ‘what happened?’; at best, they regard you as having glowed up, and at worst they think it’s just more of the same.

J got his medical report back – bad cholesterol at astronomically high levels. He has now been placed on a diet (by me). This morning I made 3-ingredient oat pancakes (banana, oat and egg) that looked disconcertingly like meat patties, but turned out to be quite delicious.

Happy weekend!

28th Feb 2026

family, life, lifestyle, singapore, writing
slogan central

One of the perks of not staring at a screen while out in public is getting to read the things people wear on their clothes. Mostly you get run-of-the-mill stuff like JUST DO IT and ANTI SOCIAL SOCIAL CLUB. Then there are the cringe ones like DON’T TEXT ME I’M BUSY (?? just saw this on a gentleman we passed on our evening walk), or various other mundanities. If you keep your eyes peeled, however, and persevere, you do eventually spot the gems. I once saw a Buddhist nun in her robes wearing – on her shaved head – a glaringly incongruous neon pink cap with the SUPREME logo splashed across it. Most memorably, I was once sitting on the upper deck of a bus when I looked out the window and spotted an old auntie on the pavement. She must have been in her 70s, with a bow-legged and onerous gait, half relying on the shopping trolley she was pushing to support her as she limped along. Emblazoned across the shirt she was wearing in bold font so large I could see it from the upper deck of a bus a significant distance away, was GET READY FOR THE SEXUAL REVOLUTION.

Rather ambitious considering she was struggling to even walk. I suppose readiness could be about mental preparation as much as the physical, and who would I be to deny any individual their chance at a SEXUAL REVOLUTION?

27th Feb 2026

life, lifestyle, singapore, writing
Oppressively humid day – the air hot, still, and heaving with moisture. Took a shower to cool off, and within minutes of exiting the bathroom and getting dressed, I was coated with a thin film of sweat once more.

Today was tinted with an inexplicable shade of melancholy, an anonymous heaviness bearing down upon me for most of the afternoon. Mercifully, I can’t remember the last time I had an episode like this. In the few weeks after giving birth I was quite a weepy mess, but I suppose that can easily be explained by hormones rushing all through me in every direction. Some years ago I was quite regularly plagued by moments of despair that, like today’s, seemed to strike for no rhyme or reason. If you’re poetic, you could call it melancholy. If you’re pragmatic, you might call it undiagnosed depressive episodes. It’s embarrassing, but a lot of the gloom and misery that churned in my gut were caused by an intense fear of being left behind in life; everywhere I looked, my peers were settling down, having families, and, well, moving. There was much I enjoyed about my singleness and its freedoms, but I often felt intensely alone too. I am well aware that to other single friends, I am probably now that person who ‘has their life together’, and I remind myself to try to be as considerate and thoughtful towards them as possible, since I know how isolating it can feel.

Rolling around on the bed today, my ten month old prised a hair velcro off my head and managed to stow it away amongst the sheets, refusing to tell me where even after I harassed her for it. Later in the day she also managed to get her hands on my butterfly clip and wasted no time in absconding with it. This time I managed to catch her as she released it into the chasm between the mattress and the bed frame, and when she looked away I hurriedly fished it out and reinstated it on my head.

Trump’s State of the Union address is playing on the TV outside and bits keep wafting in, bringing with them a strong sense of dystopia and the cloying scent of delusion.

Goodnight!

25th Feb 2026

family, life, lifestyle, mental-health, motherhood, singapore, writing
My poor mother has had to cancel a credit card because some enterprising hacker in the US has used it to spend $400 on Only Fans. Reporting the fraudulent transaction, she asked the bank staff on the other end of the phone who would eventually foot the bill. Upon finding out the merchant would, she fretted about ‘the company having to pay’. I assured her it would hardly put a dent in Only Fans’ profits.

Ploughed through the afternoon while fighting a brain fog caused by the cocktail of pills I’ve had to take to combat this vile and persistent bout of flu.

24th Feb 2026

life, lifestyle, singapore, writing
festivities (fallout)

It is a sad reality of Lunar New Year that as one gets older, the likelihood of receiving red packets decreases, a trend that is inversely proportional to the likelihood of catching a bug from the extensive mingling that comes with the season. Yesterday (Day 4 of LNY) started off alright, but by the afternoon I’d taken ill with a mysterious malady that left me shivering under the covers in bed. Drifted in and out of a series of naps and managed to feel better by bedtime.

J and I binge watched ‘The Art of Sarah’ (a new K-Drama series on Netflix) over the past 2 days. I almost never watch K-Dramas because the degree to which they are removed from reality – the plots, especially the romances, as well as the flawless faces and bodies and outfits – irks me. The constant suspension of disbelief that is required to be remotely entertained by these storylines requires too much mental stamina. That said, ‘The Art of Sarah’ was very good and the plot holes were mostly negligible. The intertwining recounts and piecemeal chronologies made it attractively complex, though it did leave me trawling online for a timeline of events. Thank you, Good People of Reddit, out there doing the Lord’s work.

Happy weekend!

21st Feb 2026

life, lifestyle, singapore, writing
festivities

It is the eve of Lunar New Year and the air is alive with festivity. It’s very weird, but as I get older I’ve been enjoying the (frankly ridiculous) fanfare surrounding LNY more and more. In particular, the terrible and incessant festive songs featuring an unidentifiable mesh of voices belonging to local actors and actresses in need of a quick buck that stream at a horrifyingly loud volume from every supermarket – I quite enjoy those.

My whole family (mum, dad and sister) just returned from a ski holiday in Japan. I skied for the first time in 2019 and found the whole enterprise too logistically intensive – the attire and equipment bulky and cumbersome, lots of queueing, terribly cold. I was also rather bad at it. Since then, I’ve been rejecting their annual requests to join the trip. While on a video call with my mother last week, she excitedly told me she’d found a slope that would be perfect for me, one I was sure to find manageable and fun. ‘It’s idiot-proof!’

An itchy ear woke me up a few times last night. I only stopped scratching because what glimmer of consciousness flickered through my sleep haze alerted me to the possibility that I might chip my manicure, the manicure I’d paid a festive surcharge to get done. When I told J, he said this was surely the epitome of a first world problem.

If you celebrate – happy Lunar New Year!

16th Feb 2026

life, lifestyle, singapore, writing
No sight of the Brahminy Kite on the rain tree today. In its place was a small cloud of pale yellow butterflies, flitting amongst the leaves like the sequence of a dream.

By 10:30 in the morning, breakfast felt like a distant memory and I was getting peckish. I decided to hold out for the early reunion (dimsum) lunch we were having with J’s family – my mother-in-law’s love language is ordering food in breathtaking excess and on more than one occasion I’ve ended up so full that I was certain my nose would bleed at any moment. These meals do wonders for the soul, but less happy things can be said about their effect on an already struggling waistline.

J asked if we would like to do e-angpows for Lunar New Year instead of the traditional cash-in-envelopes. My disdain for e-angpows flows from the same source as my aversion to smart lights and e-books, so it was, without question, a hard no from me. This does mean that we will soon have to draw a dangerously large wad of cash and stuff them into angpows, many of which have the wrong zodiac animal on them, but setting them aside for twelve years requires more patience than I can muster.

8th Feb 2026

bookmarks in the story of an ordinary life

no rest for the sweaty

revisiting: HCMC & memories of The Best Pho

slogan central

festivities (fallout)

festivities